STEP 1: Learn the Art of Eye Contact
Don't shy away from staring him down, but do it the right way. Ease into it by practicing triangular gazing, where you look at one eye, then the other, then at their mouth. Strauss says practicing this for just a day will get you ready to start learning to interact with guys you’re attracted to.
Once you've locked eyes, keep looking: one study showed that it takes about thirteen glances before the average guy approaches a woman.
That's ok there's nothing wrong with a little eye contact, make sure you keep count of how many times some pervert stares you down before you throw yourself at him.
STEP 2: Practice Small Talk
Before you approach a guy you're into, make sure you've got the basics of small talk down. "Challenge yourself to go out and make small talk with five strangers today," advises Strauss. "Don’t worry about whether they’re people you want to date. Approach grandfathers, other women, someone who’s not your type, whomever you come across. It’ll help you adjust to stepping out of your comfort zone."
Don't bother trying to have meaningful conversations, men don't like a womyn who is smarter than them or can think.
Don't get too comfortable chatting away. There are some things to keep to yourself. Anything that shows you aren't perfect, such as your childhood or that you have had sexual relationships before.
STEP 3: Perfect Your Body Language
Want to get under his skin? "Get just a centimeter into a guy’s comfort zone, and look up at him with big eyes," says Strauss. The no-fail move? "Put your chest out, chin down, eyes high in the socket, head slightly tilted, and your weight on one foot. That’s important. If your feet are planted, they feel the resistance, just as much as they would if you had your arms crossed." Practice makes perfect--you might look like a cross-eyed chicken at first, but get it down right and it’ll make him crazy.
This is key in flirting, you can't be a strong independent womyn so make sure you stand off balanced and look helpless. Men go crazy for submissive sultress who doesn't blink. And if you aren't sure what having your eyes high in the socket means just think chihuahua. A good way to tell if you aren't trying hard enough is if he has his arms crossed or is standing sideways this probably means he can sense your empowerement and you might need to turn it down a notch or two.
STEP 5: Helplessness is hoT
When it comes to conversation starts, asking for his help or opinion is a sure thing, says Strauss. "Maybe it’s some article from a women’s magazine that offers some kind of advice and you want to know if he agrees with it or not. Or maybe it’s: "It’s my cousin’s birthday and I want to buy him a CD—but his taste hasn’t evolved since the 80's. Any suggestions?" Or maybe your friend just got a three-legged cat and you need a name for it."
You can even try mixing them all up together, for example you might say "Its my 8oth birthday and my 3 legged cat's taste in music is name evolved and I was wondering if you had any cousins?"
STEP 6: Lie
Within the first 60 seconds of your conversation, Strauss says, immediately mention that you have some kind of time constraint, whether or not you do.
Honesty is soooo last season. If you are free and cant think of anything to say just go with the old "I have an enema scheduled that day."
STEP 7: Neg Him
The trick when you’re flirting, Strauss says, is "figuring how to keep a balance between being engaging enough to retain someone’s attention and not seeming overly available." Tease him a little and call him out by saying something like, "Oh sure you do..."
Remember honesty doesn't get you a date-mind games ladies, mind games.
STEP 8: Lower Your Expectations
Flirt for the sake of flirting. "If you meet a really high-quality guy and you’re really attached to the idea of him being your boyfriend, that pressure—that neediness—is something he’ll sense," Strauss warns.
We all know womyn are the superior sex so set the bar way lower because no one likes high achievers anyway. If you're having a hard time with this just replace the word slacker with sexgod. Like "My new boyfriend is a TOTAL sexgod."
And finally...
STEP 9: Make It Fun—For You
Make it about you, not about him. "If it seems like you're trying too hard, whatever you're doing will come across as desperate," Strauss says. His advice? "Think: "I'm fun. I'm cool. I radiate charisma, I am free to do whatever the hell I want." The most important thing to remember while you’re doing all this flirting is to make it fun for yourself—because then it will be fun for the other person."
Don't feel weird about needing to reaffirm yourself in the mirror everyday before talking to people, low self-esteem can be masked.
Now you are all on your way to be a lean mean flirting machine. So go out there and get a man.
Once you've locked eyes, keep looking: one study showed that it takes about thirteen glances before the average guy approaches a woman.
That's ok there's nothing wrong with a little eye contact, make sure you keep count of how many times some pervert stares you down before you throw yourself at him.
STEP 2: Practice Small Talk
Before you approach a guy you're into, make sure you've got the basics of small talk down. "Challenge yourself to go out and make small talk with five strangers today," advises Strauss. "Don’t worry about whether they’re people you want to date. Approach grandfathers, other women, someone who’s not your type, whomever you come across. It’ll help you adjust to stepping out of your comfort zone."
Don't bother trying to have meaningful conversations, men don't like a womyn who is smarter than them or can think.
Don't get too comfortable chatting away. There are some things to keep to yourself. Anything that shows you aren't perfect, such as your childhood or that you have had sexual relationships before.
STEP 3: Perfect Your Body Language
Want to get under his skin? "Get just a centimeter into a guy’s comfort zone, and look up at him with big eyes," says Strauss. The no-fail move? "Put your chest out, chin down, eyes high in the socket, head slightly tilted, and your weight on one foot. That’s important. If your feet are planted, they feel the resistance, just as much as they would if you had your arms crossed." Practice makes perfect--you might look like a cross-eyed chicken at first, but get it down right and it’ll make him crazy.
This is key in flirting, you can't be a strong independent womyn so make sure you stand off balanced and look helpless. Men go crazy for submissive sultress who doesn't blink. And if you aren't sure what having your eyes high in the socket means just think chihuahua. A good way to tell if you aren't trying hard enough is if he has his arms crossed or is standing sideways this probably means he can sense your empowerement and you might need to turn it down a notch or two.
Flirting 101
STEP 4: Don't Think Before You Speak
Don’t think too long before you open your mouth--it'll come off unnatural and awkward. "People sense it when something sounds too pre-meditated; that makes them uncomfortable," Strauss says.
Don’t think too long before you open your mouth--it'll come off unnatural and awkward. "People sense it when something sounds too pre-meditated; that makes them uncomfortable," Strauss says.
And remember: Guys aren’t necessarily attracted to beauty, they are attracted to sexual possibility—although you never want to give off the impression that you’re easy.
When it comes to conversation starts, asking for his help or opinion is a sure thing, says Strauss. "Maybe it’s some article from a women’s magazine that offers some kind of advice and you want to know if he agrees with it or not. Or maybe it’s: "It’s my cousin’s birthday and I want to buy him a CD—but his taste hasn’t evolved since the 80's. Any suggestions?" Or maybe your friend just got a three-legged cat and you need a name for it."
You can even try mixing them all up together, for example you might say "Its my 8oth birthday and my 3 legged cat's taste in music is name evolved and I was wondering if you had any cousins?"
Within the first 60 seconds of your conversation, Strauss says, immediately mention that you have some kind of time constraint, whether or not you do.
Honesty is soooo last season. If you are free and cant think of anything to say just go with the old "I have an enema scheduled that day."
STEP 7: Neg Him
The trick when you’re flirting, Strauss says, is "figuring how to keep a balance between being engaging enough to retain someone’s attention and not seeming overly available." Tease him a little and call him out by saying something like, "Oh sure you do..."
Remember honesty doesn't get you a date-mind games ladies, mind games.
Flirt for the sake of flirting. "If you meet a really high-quality guy and you’re really attached to the idea of him being your boyfriend, that pressure—that neediness—is something he’ll sense," Strauss warns.
We all know womyn are the superior sex so set the bar way lower because no one likes high achievers anyway. If you're having a hard time with this just replace the word slacker with sexgod. Like "My new boyfriend is a TOTAL sexgod."
And finally...
Make it about you, not about him. "If it seems like you're trying too hard, whatever you're doing will come across as desperate," Strauss says. His advice? "Think: "I'm fun. I'm cool. I radiate charisma, I am free to do whatever the hell I want." The most important thing to remember while you’re doing all this flirting is to make it fun for yourself—because then it will be fun for the other person."
Don't feel weird about needing to reaffirm yourself in the mirror everyday before talking to people, low self-esteem can be masked.
Now you are all on your way to be a lean mean flirting machine. So go out there and get a man.
Thanks Mali! lol. i always am looking for tips on looking helpless for men. thats my thing.... right before I go into nostalgic fantasies of castration... =x
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OMG. where did you find this? is it a joke? really, it is right?
ReplyDeletethis looks like some of the stuff I've seen on facebook quizzes lol...I couldn't read the whole thing because I've seen enough of that crap already..but I read the highlighted parts. Truly puketacular! i can't believe anyone could think that sexism is 'over', with stuff like this floating around.