Saturday, March 5, 2011
Without Passion...
“Passion, it lies in all of us, sleeping... waiting... and though unwanted... unbidden... it will stir... open its jaws and howl. It speaks to us... guides us... passion rules us all, and we obey. What other choice do we have? Passion is the source of our finest moments. The joy of love... the clarity of hatred... and the ecstasy of grief. It hurts sometimes more than we can bear. If we could live without passion maybe we'd know some kind of peace... but we would be hollow... Empty rooms shuttered and dank. Without passion we'd be truly dead.”
What does "No" mean?
(Disclaimer: I'm gonna use guy and girl because that was my experience, but you can fill in with whatever sex or gender you choose)
Girl says: No
[Guy makes move or asks again.] (WTF?)
When a girl says "No," what does that mean?
A) Not now, but please try again later.
B) I'm playing hard-to-get.
C) I want you to work for it and show me how much you want it.
D) Yes.
E) No.
When I say no, I mean no. If I meant yes, I would have said yes. If I meant maybe later, I would have said later.
Someone at a workshop once said that "when a guy says no, it means no, but when a girl says no, it is up for negotiation." The sad thing is that's true.Why is that?
Guys' Perspective (I've been talking to some guys about their opinion on making a move or asking again even after the girl says no)
- They think girls are playing hard-to-get and will only say no to not look too easy.
- They have been socialized to be persistent or else they think they won't get any girls if they're not
Girls' Perspective (or at least my perspective)
- "No" means no.
- "Yes" or action move means yes.
- When someone misinterprets the word, "no," to mean yes, I feel disrespected...like you didn't hear what I just CLEARLY articulated for you. You asked me a question and I answered. It might not be the answer you want, but it IS the answer.
Any thoughts on this scenario?
The Art of Perseverance
Quotes:
"If at first you don't succeed, you're running about average." M.H. Alderson
"Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan, 'press on' has solved, and always will solve, the problems of the human race."
Calvin Coolidge
"Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts." Winston Churchill
"If I had to select one quality, one personal characteristic that I regard as being most highly correlated with success, whatever the field, I would pick the trait of persistence. Determination. The will to endure to the end, to get knocked down seventy times and get up off the floor saying. "Here comes number seventy-one!" Richard M. Devos
"For a righteous man falls seven times, and rises again." [Proverbs 24:16] Bible
". . . The race is not [always] to the swift, nor the battle to the strong. . ." [Ecclesiastes 9:11] Bible
"It is a shameful thing for the soul to faint while the body still perseveres."
Marcus Aurelius Antoninus
"One of the commonest mistakes and one of the costliest is thinking that success is due to some genius, some magic - something or other which we do not possess. Success is generally due to holding on, and failure to letting go. You decide to learn a language, study music, take a course of reading, train yourself physically. Will it be success or failure? It depends upon how much pluck and perseverance that word "decide" contains. The decision that nothing can overrule, the grip that nothing can detach will bring success. Remember the Chinese proverb, "With time and patience, the mulberry leaf becomes satin." Maltbie Davenport Babcock
"Pay as little attention to discouragement as possible. Plough ahead as a steamer does, rough or smooth - rain or shine. To carry your cargo and make your port is the point. "
Maltbie Davenport Babcock
"A man of sense is never discouraged by difficulties; he redoubles his industry and his diligence, he perseveres, and infallibly prevails at last." Lord Chesterfield
"Before success comes in any man's life he is sure to meet with much temporary defeat and, perhaps, some failures. When defeat overtakes a man, the easiest and most logical thing to do is to quit. That is exactly what the majority of men do."Napoleon Hill
"No man is ever whipped, until he quits -- in his own mind." Napoleon Hill
"Perseverance is not a long race; it is many short races one after another." Walter Elliott
"If at first you don't succeed, you're running about average." M.H. Alderson
"Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan, 'press on' has solved, and always will solve, the problems of the human race."
Calvin Coolidge
"Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts." Winston Churchill
"If I had to select one quality, one personal characteristic that I regard as being most highly correlated with success, whatever the field, I would pick the trait of persistence. Determination. The will to endure to the end, to get knocked down seventy times and get up off the floor saying. "Here comes number seventy-one!" Richard M. Devos
"For a righteous man falls seven times, and rises again." [Proverbs 24:16] Bible
". . . The race is not [always] to the swift, nor the battle to the strong. . ." [Ecclesiastes 9:11] Bible
"It is a shameful thing for the soul to faint while the body still perseveres."
Marcus Aurelius Antoninus
"One of the commonest mistakes and one of the costliest is thinking that success is due to some genius, some magic - something or other which we do not possess. Success is generally due to holding on, and failure to letting go. You decide to learn a language, study music, take a course of reading, train yourself physically. Will it be success or failure? It depends upon how much pluck and perseverance that word "decide" contains. The decision that nothing can overrule, the grip that nothing can detach will bring success. Remember the Chinese proverb, "With time and patience, the mulberry leaf becomes satin." Maltbie Davenport Babcock
"Pay as little attention to discouragement as possible. Plough ahead as a steamer does, rough or smooth - rain or shine. To carry your cargo and make your port is the point. "
Maltbie Davenport Babcock
"A man of sense is never discouraged by difficulties; he redoubles his industry and his diligence, he perseveres, and infallibly prevails at last." Lord Chesterfield
"Before success comes in any man's life he is sure to meet with much temporary defeat and, perhaps, some failures. When defeat overtakes a man, the easiest and most logical thing to do is to quit. That is exactly what the majority of men do."Napoleon Hill
"No man is ever whipped, until he quits -- in his own mind." Napoleon Hill
"Perseverance is not a long race; it is many short races one after another." Walter Elliott
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